Preserving Mankind with Kojie.san Men
How can one preserve the concept of manliness in this modern age of liberal views and cultural influences?
What comes into mind when you hear the word “manly”? Do you think of guys with big muscular bodies pumping iron at the gym? Or what about those who’s not afraid of anything or anyone and will always have something to say? Perhaps those who are boastful and declare themselves as manly in every action they do (e.g. manly way to play, manly way to jump, manly way to breathe). or even those who doesn’t care about their appearances that all they need to start the day is to put on a pair of pants? or simply, a lesbian who’s able to stand toe to toe with you and even threat to beat you up?
Now how about the opposite side? If you’re a guy who uses a lot skin care products, take long baths, sings a lot in public, then there’s a big chance you will be labeled as “not manly” because those actions are usually associated with women. Now this is an example of stereotyping where a person gets judged on an imaginary manliness meter based on how he looks or does in life. I admit that I’m guilty of doing that kind of stereotyping but I believe that there’s more to that to reach the zen of manliness. It would take more than physical appearances and bad ass attitude to be classified as manly.
This is because you don’t need to prove your manliness. This should be something that people would say to you as you go on your normal life. You don’t need to pretend or act “manly”. All you need to do is to be normal / natural and go on living your life as you see it. For example, if you believe in chivalry like opening doors for ladies, carrying their heavy load, sharing your seat to them then by all means, do so not because you want to be recognized but because that’s what you believe in. If you want to look prim and proper, then just do it without fear of others telling you that you are being vain or gay. It maybe hard to ignore those who would laugh at what you do but just keep going. You don’t need to call attention to yourself nor change your principles just because it’s not manly by the definition of others.
“Manliness” is similar to trust and respect. It is not bought or requested but it is earned.
Till next time,
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